This is what I think.

For others to treat you with respect, you have to treat yourself with respect first. That includes not doing the things that people can use to humiliate you or your family. Even if it hurts, u know you are being the bigger person here cos ultimately, there’s nothing that they can dig up to use against you. It’s your word against theirs.

You don’t have to conform to the society to show people that you are special. If you have to use your body or your looks to entice people, then u are simply not special. You are just like any one out there on the streets. How can you expect to be treated as being someone really special then? Yes it’s gonna take awhile and sometimes it will hurt for people to not see you for who you really are, but at the end of the day, it’s all worth it. Cos you know you got what you want, or reached your destination by being yourself and not some other person the society or the people around you want you to be.